Hey LFT, Happy Thursday
The number one reason why people get divorced: Lack of emotional security. Human beings are limbically wired to rely on each other for emotional support.
How do you know if you’re in a relationship that’s emotionally secure? Dr. Sue Johnson, creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy, names these three essential characteristics:
Accessibility – The ability of one partner to be emotionally available to the other. It means being open, present, and receptive when the other reaches out. A partner who is accessible does not shut down, withdraw, or become emotionally distant.
Responsiveness – The capacity to tune into a partner’s emotional needs and respond with care and support. A responsive partner acknowledges their partner’s emotions, validates their feelings, and provides comfort rather than dismissing or ignoring their distress.
Engagement – A partner’s active emotional involvement in the relationship. Engaged partners are not just physically present but also emotionally invested, showing interest, affection, and a willingness to share experiences. They make their love and commitment clear through their actions and words.
So, do you think you’ve got what it takes to build an emotionally secure relationship? Need a little assistance? Check out my free resource: The Language of Attachment
Love, Lindsay