Hey LFT 🔥
Welcome to part II on developing a Healthy Adult Attachment. Last week, was all about NEEDS. This week in Love Futurism: EMOTIONS
The Future is Feeling
Emotions are essential data. They point us toward our underlying desires, wishes, and needs. They help us make meaning of things happening around us — and within us. And most importantly emotions help us to love.
The origin of emotions is profoundly social.
We hear and speak with our emotions through the human voice.
We see emotions on the human face and perceive them through the subtle language of the body.
Mirror neurons allow us to feel what others feel — transforming emotion into shared experience.
Emotions are, therefore, essential social awareness data orienting us to each other and our surroundings.
When we communicate our emotions, we activate an evolved internal program — one that upgrades our consciousness and strengthens emotional intelligence by syncing the limbic system (our social, emotional brain) with the neocortex (our language, logic, reasoning, and decision-making center).
This inner software expands our capacity for empathy, effective relating, and deeper intimacy. However, if you’re operating from an outdated version of Homo sapiens, you might:
Suppress your emotions
Avoid your emotions
Fear the feeling of having emotions
Struggle to communicate what you feel
Let emotional reactivity run your life
Decide there are only a few “acceptable” emotions
If this describes any of your current methods for managing emotions, my hope is that today is the dawn of a new day — one where you say to yourself: “All emotions are allowed. I don’t have to enjoy them, but I’m no longer going to fight them. From here on out, I’m willing to feel them.”
And if that feels like something you can commit to, let this also be the moment you begin to communicate emotions with clarity, honesty, and compassion. Check out these resources to help you get started:
Difficult Emotions
Let’s look a deeper at some of the more difficult emotions humans experience. These are the feelings we often try to push away, but they’re also the ones with the greatest potential to teach us, guide us, and transform the way we relate to ourselves and others.
Top 20 Emotions People Don’t Like to Feel (and What They Signal)
Helplessness — a need for agency, control, or support.
Shame — a need for acceptance, belonging, or forgiveness.
Guilt — a desire to make amends or act in alignment with values.
Fear — a need for safety, reassurance, or predictability.
Anger — a need for fairness, boundaries, or respect.
Sadness — a need for comfort, connection, or letting go.
Disgust — a boundary response signaling something feels off or unsafe.
Jealousy — a desire for acknowledgment, worth, or attention.
Envy — a signal of what we long for or wish to cultivate in ourselves.
Rejection — a longing for belonging, recognition, or love.
Loneliness — a need for closeness, community, or meaningful connection.
Embarrassment — a desire to be seen positively or accepted by others.
Insecurity — a need for reassurance, stability, or inner confidence.
Frustration — a signal that effort isn’t matching outcome — calling for patience or strategy.
Resentment — a boundary violation or unmet need for reciprocity.
Disappointment — an adjustment to unmet expectations or lost hopes.
Betrayal — a loss of trust or a need for honesty and integrity.
Grief — a natural response to loss; a need to integrate and honor love.
Hopelessness — a need for renewal, perspective, or faith that things can improve.
Boredom — a call for meaning, creativity, or engagement.
So please — allow yourself to experience these emotions and ask for what you need from the people around you.
Emotions are biophysical events behaving like waves of activation that rise and fall. They’re meant to move through your system, not to get stuffed down, suppressed or trapped. Emotions are not facts, they are opinions about experience. Name them so you can understand them. Feel them so you can release them. And when they’ve done their job, let them go.
There is so much more to cover on this topic. Stay Attuned…
Love, Lindsay